Step away from the cake …
It turns out there’s a lot to say when you look at life through a lens – especially if you’re a wedding photographer. Capturing some of a couple’s most intimate moments during their special day can be pretty revealing, which is why one Reddit Thread asked wedding photographers to reveal their telltale signs that marriage is not going to last. They said:
1. Cut the wedding cake
It may sound obvious, but when someone decides to rub cake in the face of their new spouse, it is often not a good sign.
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The 2D printer explains: “It will sound totally cheesy, but I feel even more so: what happens when you cut the cake? Feed each other sweetly? Good sign. A playful frosting on your nose? No problem.
“But every now and then someone will reciprocate – bad sign. I think it’s an indication of the kind of contempt that will make the relationship fail. Even if you don’t want this fondant on your face, you have to laugh at it and have a good time. “
Yes, weddings can be stressful, so emotions can be high. At the same time, this is said to be the happiest day in a couple’s life. So if a couple is already arguing, chances are that things are not going well.
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eatcheeseordie: “I am amazed at the brides and grooms who make biting comments during the day. If I only know you for eight hours, but I know that you are upset that your new spouse did not let you plan a wedding, I am not sure that you have clearly defined your priorities. “
3. The appearance of love (/ loathing)
It is not so much a question of looking into each other’s eyes as it is of fundamental liking.
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SuccessiveApprox: “We spend 8, 10, 12 or more hours in a day looking at the bride and groom through a framework that isolates them alone and together, largely removes the broader context, and focuses on their interactions. We specifically look for moments of contact, intimacy, emotional connection. It quickly becomes clear when these things are there and when they are not. “
4. The speeches
Yes, we know that the phrase “actions speak louder than words” is, but apparently not when it comes to wedding speeches. One of the things that several photographers pointed out was lack of respect (or recognition), a sure sign of failure regardless of who was talking.
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Foxglove: “In the speeches of the bride and groom, it is probably not a good sign if they do not mention the other person.” It reminds when a director wins the best picture and does not recognize the main actor or vice versa. “
2D printer: “What people who give speeches (best man, best man, father of the bride) say about the person their friend / relative is getting married is a great giveaway. Do you feel that this person enriches the life of your new spouse? Do you see them as an extension of your family or as a close friend? Are your anecdotes about how each person complements the other? Or are you just happy for them?
I’ve heard some really warm, touching words that were shared during the toast … and heard others that were seriously overwhelming. If it is not easy for you to think about why this person fits your friend well, that is a bad sign. “
5. Bridezillas / Peter Pan cares
This has tended to be a trend among photographers. If one spouse is much more enthusiastic or dominant than the other, it can basically be a sign that cracks are showing up.
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Sir Leopold Stoch: If I had to choose a trend, it would be really self-centered brides (or brides with a quick temper) or lazy / immature grooms. Really bad combination if both are like that.
NorseGodLoki0411: The biggest sign for me is how bossy the bride is towards the groom. If she takes the show to the point where he gets a little annoyed, that’s a big sign. It is the happiest day of his life and he is angry. Not good.
CoLmes: “The groom didn’t even bother to make himself presentable on his wedding day. It was literally the first time that both sides of the family met on that day.” Weird people. ‘
6. It’s all about the wedding (not marriage)
Sure, it’s easy to get involved in wedding planning, but if marriage is more about wedding than living together, you know you’re in trouble.
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Photographer_Rob: “A couple of things that I also noticed are that some brides are almost more in love with the idea of a wedding than with the person they marry. I made a wedding where the girl had 4 different dresses all day, elaborate jewelry and everything was over the top, but this was not an interaction between the bride and groom at that wedding. The other photographer and I bet it would not last. Sure enough, a few weeks later we get a call so we don’t have to worry about processing the images they paid for because they canceled them. “
But of course, many wedding photographers also indicated that they simply had no idea predicting the success of a marriage they had. So if you have a fight on your big day, don’t despair. But maybe a step away from this cake (just in case you know?)